Tuesday, 20 September 2011
There's No Place Like Home
It's no secret that I have been lucky enough to travel a reasonable amount, mainly around Europe, but also (with the exception of South America and Australia) briefly touching the other continents.That's not to say that there aren't a great many places I have yet to visit that are on my "to do" list!
I've also been lucky enough to spend extended periods of time living in other countries in my childhood and early adulthood. I'm therefore no stranger to adapting to different cultures, although to be fair they have been mainly Western European!
Whenever I go anywhere, whether for business or for pleasure, I therefore naturally find myself wondering what it would be like to live in the particular country I am visiting. In my head I've lived in the US, done the expat lifestyle in Dubai, lived the good life in France, and even returned mentally to Germany and Finland. Whilst there have never been concrete opportunities, I am sure if at any point I had really wanted to, I could probably have found a chance to push for one of those locations over the past *cough* years.
I do often wonder what has stopped me from taking the plunge. There was always an excuse or other. I guess the truth is that in a two-career household neither of us felt strongly enough about it in order to warrant the inevitable disruption to the other partner's career it would have entailed. Then there are the little excuses that creep in; Dubai is too hot (true, and very valid), the US seemed too far away at the time, France has too many smokers (although the wine may balance that out), Finland is too cold and dark for half the year, I don't think I could cope with the formality of Germany any more etc etc.
When it all comes down to it, this funny little island we live in suits me. Don't get me wrong, I don't think the UK is perfect - far from it by all means. What I am trying to say is that I guess I have finally realised it is kind of perfect for me - probably more by a process of elimination than anything else.
Of course, now that there are children to throw into the equation, and they now both at school, there are different considerations to bear in mind. There's no doubt I'd love to give my children the same experiences I had, and the ease at which they would now earn a foreign language is almost too good an opportunity to pass up. However, I also remember the stress it caused me in my own childhood - the stress of starting a new school in a whole different country when you already have a grasp of the language is reasonable is bad enough... Whilst I know, deep down, that children are adaptable, maybe I'm just not brave enough to take that chance with my own. Finally, from a purely selfish point of view I have friends and family here. I have a support network - not something to be underestimated as a working parent, after all.
It never stops you wondering though, does it...
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I agree with you. I love travelling but coming home is good. We love to visit the rest of this island too. We have some great places so shouldn't forget that!
ReplyDeleteYour post struck a chord! Having decided to come and live in Germany two years ago I have no regrets, even if it did not work out for my eldest daughter and she now lives in Switzerland again with her Dad. My younger daughter loves it too here, and she is now trilingual: English, French and German. I love traveling too, next trip coming up is Toronto!
ReplyDeleteUnlike you, I've been desperate to get out of the UK for years. I was used to living abroad having lived in Paris when I was at Uni, I backpacked for 18 months and lived in Sydney for some of the time. I've wanted to be an expat ever since I first visited Singapore (and like you have played out what it would be like in my head). That was 13 years ago.
ReplyDeleteI met my husband 10 years ago and it's taken me nearly this long to persuade him that it would be a good idea to move. As I've got 2 little ones, it had to be a career move on his part rather than mine.
I finally got my wish earlier this January, when my husband got a job here in Singapore.
Yes I miss my friends and family, but I don't miss the UK. Has it lived up to expectations? Oh yes!
Every time we come back from holiday, a moody mist descends around us, none happy to be returning 'home'. We travelled round the world in 2009 via New Zealand, Sydney and Hawaii - I'd emigrate to South Island in a flash and wouldn't look back. Yes I'd miss friends and family here, but the quality of life both the kids and we would have would far outweigh that. And Twitter/Skype aren't bad for keeping in touch.
ReplyDeleteThat's also true - still have so many places at home to explore too...
ReplyDeleteWow - Canada is one place I've never been but have always wanted to visit. Sounds fun :)
ReplyDeleteIt does sound wonderful...you're not going to tempt me, are you.... ;)
ReplyDeleteMaybe I just haven't found that one place I'd move to then...
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